YOU ARE SUPAR GENIUS!
That did it, thank you VERY VERY much! Topside connectors FTL, I should have checked continuity between the pin I inserted in the header to the PAD of the LCD, not the pin in the hole on the LCD.
I still wish there was some kind of software method of narrowing this down, comparing the dump information from 0x20, exactly the same, still, I learned a whole lot.

